You've seen the hashtag "self-care comes first" (#selfcarecomesfirst), but is that really true?
The answer is yes, self-care comes first. Always.
As a mental health blogger, self-care advocate, and life coach for women, of course, I'm biased. However, there are three undeniable reasons why self-care is the best care, and why self-care comes first.
Have you ever tried squeezing that last little bit of coffee out of the pot, hoping that more will magically appear? 🙋
Has that ever worked?
The truth is that you can't give what you don't have. If you want a nice, piping hot cup of coffee, you've got to put something in the pot first.
The same goes from the results in your life. If you want to be a kind, loving, and generous person, you first have to be kind, loving, and generous with yourself.
Giving and giving and without giving to yourself first will only result in you feeling tired, overwhelmed, stressed out, and utterly depleted.
☝️ Don't worry if any of that sounds like you. There's hope. Prioritize your self-care, and put your self-care first, and you'll find that you have more to give than you ever imagined.
And, lucky for you, I have a free self-care checklist with easy-to-follow self-care tips that you can implement right away. This checklist will help you improve your daily routine and take better care of yourself. 👇👇👇
I totally understand wanting to do your best. After all, if you're going to do something, you should give it your best shot. However, doing your best doesn't mean working yourself to the point of a mental breakdown.
This is an important lesson, especially if you're a recovering perfectionist such as myself. Before I developed the self-care practice that I have now, I frequently ended up in the ER with a panic attack on more than one occasion.
All of this drama, and for what? It was the result of working too hard and not giving myself enough TLC.
The truth is that you can't always give 100% all of the time. Sometimes, your best really is 100%. Other times, your best might be 10%, and that's okay. Do the best with what you have at that time.
And if someone's trying to push you past your limit? Say hello to my little friend, a short yet sweet word that I like to call, "No."
True self-care means treating yourself with grace and compassion. Listen to your body's needs. Learn to rest, not to quit. Remember that you're a woman of strength. You can do this, especially if you give yourself the time, space, and energy you need to thrive.
Many religions and spiritual practices believe that the body is a temple. I do, too. That makes self-care an act of service, not of selfishness. You need to take care of yourself in order to serve others effectively.
Regardless of your faith, you're a beautiful being, and you need to honor your needs. Be in tune with yourself. Watch for warning signs of burnout. Listen to your body.
You know that little inner voice telling you to slow down? Yup, that one. Do yourself and everyone else around you a favor—listen to that inner voice and take care of yourself for once.
Your friends, family members, kids, co-workers, and clients will thank you. And hopefully, you'll thank yourself, too.
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