“Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.” Harry S. Truman
During my freshman year in college, the Arizona Star called and asked me if I wanted to subscribe to their newspaper.
“I’m a college student. I don’t read,” I answered before hanging up the phone.
What I meant to say is that I don’t read for fun. Over ten years later, that’s still true. I don’t read for fun. I read to learn.
That wasn’t always the case. When I was growing up, I read a lot, and mostly for pleasure. As soon as I could talk, I was constantly bugging my mom to read with me, and by kindergarten, I was reading chapter books. During the summer our local library ran a reading program for kids, complete with milestones and prizes. The go-getter that I was, I always won all of the prizes long before the program ended. Throughout elementary and middle school, I carried at least one or two books with me at all times. Reading was a...
Confession: I'm an introvert and I don't make friends very easily.
I work from home and could easily spend all day in my pajamas without speaking to a soul. However, I don't want to be a recluse, so I've been making a conscious effort to meet new people and make new friends.
The problem is that new friends come with new opportunities, and new opportunities often mean new challenges.
If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you. -Fred DeVito
A challenge recently arose when my new friend messaged me out of the blue.
"Want to come with me to this next Saturday?" she asked. She sent me the link to a personal development workshop being hosted at a local yoga studio.
I scanned the description. Journaling? Mantras? Meditation? Count me in!
But then I read the part about trusting. Community. Partnered exercises. Group activities. All of my least favorite things.
My insides curdled.
I was the girl who avoided eye contact and crossed the street so I wouldn't...
I'm not a naturally thankful person. I have to consciously work to have and express gratitude. Here are some of the ways I've learned how to be more grateful.
In 1936, Dale Carnegie published his famous self-help book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. His advice, “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain,” is one of the keys to cultivating a grateful heart. After all, we can’t be practicing an attitude of gratitude if we’re criticizing, condemning, or complaining.
“Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.”
– Dale Carnegie
One of my mentors took this a step further, with what he calls the “6 C’s.”
The first time I heard this, I felt so convicted.
I was doing all of these.
It was no wonder I was miserable!
How could I overcome my weaknesses and create a more joyful life?
That really depends on what you make of them. Like most things in life, it comes down to mindset. If you think something will work for you, then it will. If you don’t think it will work for you, then it won’t. So whether or not positive affirmations will work for you depends on if you believe they will or not. It’s like the placebo effect for your brain, but that effect can be very powerful.
I've personally had great success using positive affirmations to alleviate anxiety and depression, cope with stress and chronic illness, and overall maintain a positive attitude and outlook on life.
What’s important to know about affirmations is that there’s no one-size-fits-all mantra out there. Additionally, there’s no right or wrong way to use them. Positive affirmations aren’t about “doing it right” or “doing it enough,” but about using a tool...